Are you wondering where all the nice guys are? Have you exhausted the bar scene and become sick and tired of having to lower the bar when it comes to finding a quality man? If you’re looking to meet a guy who treats you well, respects you, and is genuinely kind through and through, these 11 places will help you to find that first-rate man. Who said nice guys finish last?
A local charity
If you’re hoping to meet a nice guy, one of the top places to look is at a local charity, foundation, or philanthropic organization in your area. In fact, volunteering your time for a worthy cause has a vast range of benefits, particularly when it comes to your love life. First, by spending your time volunteering, you’re putting yourself in the perfect position to meet a caring, considerate, and selfless man who also values altruism and fully understands the importance of giving back.
Research in BMC Evolutionary Biology revealed that men and women who engage in altruistic acts are more intriguing and desirable partners for long-term relationships. In other words, volunteering makes you far more appealing to a generous and kind man in-and-of-itself. In addition, not only does volunteering allow you to do something good for others and enable you to provide help to those in need, but the very act of volunteering has been proven to be highly beneficial for your emotional, mental, and physical health and well-being, all of which can make you more alluring to the opposite sex. Specifically, by doing something nice for others, you’re upping your chances of meeting a nice guy.
A paid dating app or website
A paid dating app or website is another place where you might find a nice guy. While there are plenty of free dating apps and sites that certainly have their share of nice guys, the services with a monthly subscription or in-app purchases may help you to meet someone who’s a bit more serious about finding a serious relationship. After all, many free dating apps and sites have a reputation for attracting some men who are only interested in hooking up with someone, who aren’t looking for anything serious, or who like to play the field. But joining a paid dating app can help you to weed out some of these undesirable men and enable you to find a nice guy who’s literally and figuratively investing his time, energy, and money into meeting a quality woman. In fact, it’s in his best interest (so to speak) to prioritize dating at this point in his life, so by signing up for these paid dating apps and sites rather than free ones, it can help you to make a real connection with a nice guy who truly values you in every respect.
An alumni event
Another great place to meet a nice man is at an alumni event. Whether it’s for your graduate school, college, high school, junior high, or even your elementary school, attending alumni events can be an eventful way to meet a kind and caring man. Why? While many of these events are specifically geared toward networking, these occasions can also help to introduce you to the men in your area with whom you have already have a fundamental commonality and connection. Specifically, when you’re conversing with a fellow alum at these events, you already have some insight about him right off the bat, and learning more about the classes, activities, and pastimes that he was involved in at your alma mater can further shed some light on his personality and personal preferences. Plus, you may even know some of the same people, which can not only help to increase the bond that the two of you share, but can also enable you to gather more opinions about him in order to fully verify his nice guy status. And since these types of events are built around talking to others and exchanging information, it’s an easy way to make a connection with someone that could one day turn into a long-lasting school romance.
If you’re looking to meet a nice guy, consider going on a date set up by the people you know and trust. I’s time to stop being shy about your single status and start asking others if they have a nice guy with whom to fix you up. Whether you ask your friends, your family, a co-worker, or even your trainer at the gym, making it known that you’re actively looking to be set up can help to set the stage to meet a nice guy. After all, the more people you ask, the more likely you are to come across someone who knows a nice guy for you. Plus, the fact that you have someone in common who can actually vouch for this guy, and vouch for you in return, speaks volumes. So rather than meeting a random stranger, you can go on a date with a man who’s verifiably a good person and already shares a common connection with you right from the start.
You may not even be aware that your friend, relative, and/or colleague loves to play cupid and fix people up. Even if they don’t have someone in mind for you just yet, they’ll likely think of you the next time that they come across a nice guy of interest.
Activities that you enjoy
When you’re searching for a nice guy, it’s time to shift the focus onto yourself and concentrate on the different activities and pastimes that are important to you. Are you a yoga fanatic? An art history enthusiast? Or do you love to fish? The more that you engage in the activities that you thoroughly enjoy, the more likely you are to create new opportunities to meet considerate and kind men who share these same passions and priorities.
But it doesn’t stop there, as a vital part of upping your chances to meet a nice guy means that you have to be proactive and push yourself out of your comfort zone while pursuing these favorite activities. For instance, if you’re a huge sports fan, why not sign up for a coed soccer, baseball, or kickball team in your area and put yourself in the perfect position to meet a nice guy who knocks it out of the park in every sense? Plus, by expanding your network of men and women through engaging in these activities, you’re taking steps to increase the amount of people you know who could potentially have someone in mind for you.
Places that tie into your non-negotiables
If you’re looking to meet a nice guy, another go-to strategy is to become involved at the places that reflect your relationship non-negotiables. For instance, if one of the must-haves for your future partner is that he shares the same faith as you, then getting involved in the different activities and groups at your church, temple, mosque, or other religious institution can be quite beneficial. Not only does becoming active in your religious community help to open the door to meet nice men who also share your beliefs and values, but you may also meet people in the community who know someone who’s perfect for you and want to set you up on a date.
It’s important to frequent the locations that reflect your top relationship priorities instead of spending your time at places that don’t directly align with your main criteria. If you want your future partner to share your passion for jazz, then hitting up jazz clubs rather than techno clubs is imperative toward increasing your chances of meeting someone who meets your standards.
Attending a fundraiser or charity event is also a great opportunity to meet a nice guy. Not only are you fully supporting an important and worthy cause that’s meaningful to you, but attending these events opens the door to meet men who also share your interests and priorities. In addition, these types of events create the perfect atmosphere for mingling and networking, which makes introducing yourself to the guys around you that much easier and more natural. Want another bonus? In many cases, these events have noteworthy speakers who are not only engrossing, enlightening, and inspiring, but their speeches can help to give you the perfect subject matter from which to easily start up a conversation with those around you. Plus, some charities create types of events that are especially designed for single people, so while you’re supporting a good cause, you could also be setting yourself up to meet a man who’s specifically looking for a woman who also shares his desires to give back.
Yes, you read that correctly. If you want to meet to a nice guy, using your social network can also be a great place to help you in your search. By simply typing in a favorite pastime or activity into the search bar, such as hiking, skiing, or painting, you can find many different groups and online communities that you can get involved in both virtually and in real life. And not only are you able to connect with men who share your interests, but you’re also able to gauge their true dating potential and nice guy status simply by reviewing their profiles.
Along these lines, choosing to reach out to your vast friend network via Facebook messaging can also help you to widen your search for a nice guy. After all, not only are you letting others know that you’re looking to meet someone, but messaging them on Facebook enables them to quickly and easily search through their friends to see if there’s someone who could be a potential match for you. Plus, you could even write something about yourself in the message that a friend could then forward to the nice guy who he or she knows. Just be sure to review your own Facebook page so that it represents your best self, as men will likely check out your profile before contacting you. Think about it — do you still have photos up of you and your ex? The simple act of untagging can make snagging a nice guy that much more doable.
At your place
While it may surprise you, there’s a way to bring nice guys directly to you — and that’s by hosting an event at your place. Whether you decide to throw a potluck dinner, a casual barbecue, or a holiday-themed affair, the only caveat when inviting guests over to your place is that you ask each of them to bring along a guy friend who’s single. Not only does this help you to meet a wider range of new men who’ve already been pre-approved by someone you know and trust, but it enables you to remain in a comfortable and familiar setting versus trying to navigate the loud and crowded bar scene when looking to strike up conversations with others. Even if you don’t hit it off with the different men who attend your soiree, you never know if they might know a special someone who could be perfect for you. Plus, simply by inviting new people to your event, you’re setting the stage to have far more interesting, diverse, and engaging conversations with those around you.
Through a matchmaker
It may seem old-fashioned, but the matchmaking trend is coming back in a big way. One of the main reasons for its revival is that rather than having to meet a random guy from a dating app or site, the men who use a professional matchmaker or matchmaking service have been interviewed, screened, and fully vetted. Plus, matchmakers are able to get to know their clients in a more personal way that allows them to carefully and insightfully make matches from their database that are based upon common interests, shared values, and long-term goals. Rather than spending your time swiping through guy after guy trying to figure out who’s actually nice and who’s not, the matchmaker does all of the searching for you.
The matchmaking approach also enables you to find guys who are truly serious about meeting someone, as these services can be quite pricey for men. If you’re still not convinced that matchmaking is the right choice for you, note that many services are very low cost or even totally free for women. What do you have to lose?
A wedding celebration
If you’re looking to meet a nice guy, you might just find one at a at a wedding. After all, if you know the bride or groom separately, you’re able to meet an entire new network of the happy couple’s male friends who are there to celebrate. The fact that these men are even in attendance helps to give you some indication that they’re in fact quality guys, since they were invited in the first place. And while other types of parties and special occasions are also places that can enable you to meet a nice guy, a wedding is likely more selective in terms of who was asked to attend. That can help you to focus on the men who are verifiably nice guys and whose presence is truly meaningful to the bride and/or groom. The next time that you head to a wedding without a plus one, you should view it as a plus that you may end up meeting “the one.”
Nice guys do exist!
It’s clear that there are many different places where you can meet a nice guy: through a paid dating app, at a charity event, through a matchmaker, or even at a wedding. However, if you’re actually serious about finding a kindhearted man, you have to fully believe in your heart that he’s out there in the first place. While you may have been hurt or let down in the past, nice guys do exist — really!
If you think that you’ll never find a man who’ll respect you and treat you in a caring, compassionate, and loving way, then this can easily become a self-fulfilling prophecy. In fact, your negative expectations can shape the way in which you interact with the men around you, and you may end up pushing away quality guys without even realizing it. On the flip side, resolving to stay positive is a crucial step on your journey toward finding the nice guy you truly want and deserve.